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Wednesday, September 14, 2016

Small Success Thursday - Sept 14

Hello everyone,
Time to join up with Catholic Mom to reflect on the small things we have been successful at this week.

The last few weeks have been really hard. Hubby has been on stress overload with ork and it has bubbled over. For a while it seems like everything I was doing was the last straw. ( I think I have been on his side before.) So I really tried to back off. I unscheduled myself working on the band truck crew as even on better days I try to help and end up doing something exactly the opposite of what he was planning. Me and my strong personality tend to take over.

But slowly it is getting better. He has gotten into playing Disk or Frisbee golf. We went the other night after supper and then we practiced throwing in the back yard Wed evening.

This weekend, the high school football game was postponed due to a bomb threat. The band was not there, but we were there with the equipment truck. About 50 minutes before game time, they called it off and quickly evacuated the stadium and tailgating areas. As we circled the campus we saw a lot of emergency vehicles gathered behind a building. I think the officials of the school and the community did a mince job handling the situation. The game was played Sunday afternoon. Instead of the whole band, only the drumline went. As parents of a percussionist as well as truck crew, we were there.

TheTeen was supposed to have his audition for the ensemble at the University. He called the director to reschedule and was told to show up early This Sunday afternoon for the audition and to plan to stay for rehearsal. So they reserved a spot for him. I think this was his saving grace with the academic trouble he had last year. So far for this year, he is starting out strong. He likes ll of his teacher and is no longer angry that we pulled him out of AP English. He ONLY has 3 AP classes.

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Thursday, August 11, 2016

Small Success Thursday - Aug 11, 2016

Hello everyone, I have some time this morning before I head to the office. Hubby let me shower first.

Feels like my day to day life is the same, consistent, boring. Hubby heads back overseas for next week. TheTeen starts back to school Wednesday. I am happy to have the same job. As a contingent worker, continuous employment is a good thing. But life is not really that way.

  • I am going to be a Grandma again. DDIL is meeting with her University advisers. She thinks she can take 2 weeks off and still graduate in June. It sounds like they want her to do her student teaching in the Fall. She also thinks she wants someone to come int he house to care for the kids (taking The Toddler to pre-school). I doubt they can afford that and housing at the same time. 
  • We bought a new couch. I want to clean some carpets and move the existing couch into the formal living room that has a chair and TheToddler's toys.    
  • We decided we do not need the daybed/Trundle in the Office. No that my parents have moved closer, our other guest room is not used often. That will give me more room. And I decided I can use the dresser int he guest room to store my table linens. 
It is all a matter of perspective. If I shift my veiw point to the positive, thinks look much better. 

Linking up with Catholic Mom

Thursday, July 14, 2016

Small Success Thursday - Lives well lived

Hello, It is Thursday and I am linking up with Catholic Mom to review my week and find the small things I did to make my life run more smoothly.

The last 2 weeks have shown me examples of lives well-lived. Last week I attended the funeral of the mother of my Sister-in-law. She was a lovely lady devoted to her family and her family was devoted to her. There were all kinds of heartfelt tributes. I want to be remembered that way.

Then yesterday, I worked from my parents house to hold down the fort while they attended the memorial service of Dad's Childhood friend. After the service Mom and Dad hosted a luncheon. I got to hear storied of the antics of Bill, Bob, Chuck and John. One of those friends I know well as he and his wife are honorary Aunt and Uncle and Godparents to my Brother. Uncle B also told a story of having a conversation with his oldest child about how Uncle B & Aunt J are not "real" or blood Aunt and Uncle.

All this to remind me to cherish the love and friendships that I have, to keep the communications. The late friend and his wife had moved away. When my parents started to go to Florida every February, they made an effort to reconnect. The Widow told me that my parents were a great source of comfort to her as her husband's illness  (dementia) took hold and progressed.

May I remember these examples and take similar actions.

Thursday, July 07, 2016

Small Success Thursday - Summer in Full swing

It is Thursday that time of the week when we pause to assess the little things we do that makes our lives go more smoothly.

Last weekend was a bit surreal, TheTeen left Friday for his trip to Sidney Australia while hubby was on a business trip to Switzerland. Felt weird to have each in different places on the planet. But Hubby made it home and TheTeen is sending texts, pictures and even a short, 2 minute Facetime session this week. His group played a concert in the Sidney Opera House yesterday. He used the word "Awesome"

Hubby and I are taking time to reconnect. I attended the funeral of my Sister-in-law's mother. It is nice seeing my nephews coming out of their shell and interacting. My Out-of-town brother came in and the entire family minus my youngest Son got together for a visit. A nice number of my Aunts, Uncles and cousins paid a visit tot he funeral home. I love my close extended family.

Enjoy the week ahead.
Linking up with Catholic Mom.

Thursday, June 09, 2016

Small Success Thursday - School is out... or is it?

Small Success Thursday over at is a chance to share and reflect on the mostly un-noticed things we do that make our life hum along.

My Teen is going to have to take Math class over the summer. Frustrating since he was in Honors Math. He shut down because he has not figure out how to interact with his teacher's style. The course in Online, so this should be interesting. He has decided to set aside 9-noon to work on this daily.
I so dislike being this much of a Helicopter parent, but since I am paying a hefty tuition for his Parochial school, I am going to monitor his homework in the online grade book next year.

The new band (with the new Director) started off well with a purge of the band room. We found boxes of 1980-style uniforms stored away. As a "seasoned" band mom who has been handling emails for the last 6 years, I have been working with the new guy as we try to mesh the old way with the new way, figuring out what works, what doesn't and especially the forms needed.

We gave up on our 2 year dishwasher. It was a dud and we kept tearing the top piece of trim off. In order to replace that piece, you needed to replace the entire control module. If we had gotten water down down in there it could have shorted out the whole thing. I sacrificed my desired color for a top edge that would be less likely to get caught on someone's shoelace and get pulled off. So now I have a stainless dishwaser, black range, white over-the-range microwave and a white fridge. f and when we decide to sell, we will replace the microwave and maybe move our fridge out of the way and put in a new one intending to sell it with the house.

Linking up with Catholic Mom

Thursday, June 02, 2016

Small Success Thursday - Mercy edition

Thursday again. Time to reflect on the small mostly un-noticed things we do to keep our lives going. I am linking up with Catholic Mom

What a week for me. I keep getting worked up over stuff. 

I live very near Cincinnati, where a boy made his way into a Gorilla enclosure and a magnificent animal was put down to save the boys life. I have spent the week getting pretty worked up by all the people condemning the Mom (Hey, the Dad was there too) Many other bloggers have doe a better job that I talking about this. I just need to stop watching the news and reading comboxes. But I could see my older son doing something like this if the notion struck him. I felt for the Mom. Of course the story is constantly in the news. Every angle has to explored. Today there was a story on the psychology of the outrage against the Mom. In hindsight, she should have taken the child comment that he wanted to play in the water more seriously. Yes she took her eye of that son to attend another child (and not to be on her phone like a lot of mean commenters have accused her of). The public wants a lynching in charges filed. The family stated they have no plans to sue the Zoo. People think it is a lie. Good Grief. 

The next question on my mind is about my teenager. I wrote a couple of week ago that this was a bad year academically. He has his last 2 exams this morning and then he is done until August. But a new crop of his math homework grades appeared online. He did not both to do them. This is a kid taking Honors level math classes. He signed up for 4 AP and 2 honors classes next year. At dinner I asked him "Why, we have talked about this". "I don;t have an answer" was his reply Does he deserve some Mercy? I think we have said all we can to him, but the behavior continued. He says he is gearing up for the load next year. I think I need to ramp up my prayer game and maybe get my Helicopter Mom's license. 

Finally, my poor husband has been under a lot of work stress. Friday he made a move that really ticked me off. He acknowledged that I had a reason but of course, once I got set off, I got upset about a lot of things that I had been able to overlook in the past. I finally told him that I think I had been absorbing a lot of is stress, trying to make home life easier on him, but I have reached my limit. 

Hubby had to take a short notice trip overseas, so maybe I can get back in front of my stress. I need to find a more effective was of dealing than eating and getting worked up about things I have no control. (Do I have at least influence over the Teenagers behavior?) I now I need to have Mercy on myself as well as the rest of the world so I don't let it all eat away at me. 

Thursday, May 26, 2016

Small Success Thursday - Out with the old and in with the new

Hello everyone, That time of the week when I join up with Catholic Mom to remember the little things we accomplish as Wives and Moms.

This past couple of weeks has been busier with the finishing up of the school year, particularly in regards to the band. (My son is a Sophomore). It is a year of transition as the long time band director is leaving and a new one is taking over. As band booster president (hubby) and the most experience band parents (Our older son graduated in '13) we an integral in the transition.

Since the school instituted the change some of this has been a bit prickly, but the outgoing band director has done a great job of keeping his chin up and maintaining a professional demeanor in such a difficult situation. I am glad it is almost over for him.

The new guy is full of ideas to bring technology into the program and hopefully reverse the membership slump we have had.  He has been a teacher at the school for years, having been the assistant director about a dozen years ago, but had decided to concentrate on teaching religion.

So exciting things going on. We have been lucky to have the outgoing director be so gracious.