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Thursday, June 09, 2016

Small Success Thursday - School is out... or is it?

Small Success Thursday over at is a chance to share and reflect on the mostly un-noticed things we do that make our life hum along.

My Teen is going to have to take Math class over the summer. Frustrating since he was in Honors Math. He shut down because he has not figure out how to interact with his teacher's style. The course in Online, so this should be interesting. He has decided to set aside 9-noon to work on this daily.
I so dislike being this much of a Helicopter parent, but since I am paying a hefty tuition for his Parochial school, I am going to monitor his homework in the online grade book next year.

The new band (with the new Director) started off well with a purge of the band room. We found boxes of 1980-style uniforms stored away. As a "seasoned" band mom who has been handling emails for the last 6 years, I have been working with the new guy as we try to mesh the old way with the new way, figuring out what works, what doesn't and especially the forms needed.

We gave up on our 2 year dishwasher. It was a dud and we kept tearing the top piece of trim off. In order to replace that piece, you needed to replace the entire control module. If we had gotten water down down in there it could have shorted out the whole thing. I sacrificed my desired color for a top edge that would be less likely to get caught on someone's shoelace and get pulled off. So now I have a stainless dishwaser, black range, white over-the-range microwave and a white fridge. f and when we decide to sell, we will replace the microwave and maybe move our fridge out of the way and put in a new one intending to sell it with the house.

Linking up with Catholic Mom

Thursday, June 02, 2016

Small Success Thursday - Mercy edition

Thursday again. Time to reflect on the small mostly un-noticed things we do to keep our lives going. I am linking up with Catholic Mom

What a week for me. I keep getting worked up over stuff. 

I live very near Cincinnati, where a boy made his way into a Gorilla enclosure and a magnificent animal was put down to save the boys life. I have spent the week getting pretty worked up by all the people condemning the Mom (Hey, the Dad was there too) Many other bloggers have doe a better job that I talking about this. I just need to stop watching the news and reading comboxes. But I could see my older son doing something like this if the notion struck him. I felt for the Mom. Of course the story is constantly in the news. Every angle has to explored. Today there was a story on the psychology of the outrage against the Mom. In hindsight, she should have taken the child comment that he wanted to play in the water more seriously. Yes she took her eye of that son to attend another child (and not to be on her phone like a lot of mean commenters have accused her of). The public wants a lynching in charges filed. The family stated they have no plans to sue the Zoo. People think it is a lie. Good Grief. 

The next question on my mind is about my teenager. I wrote a couple of week ago that this was a bad year academically. He has his last 2 exams this morning and then he is done until August. But a new crop of his math homework grades appeared online. He did not both to do them. This is a kid taking Honors level math classes. He signed up for 4 AP and 2 honors classes next year. At dinner I asked him "Why, we have talked about this". "I don;t have an answer" was his reply Does he deserve some Mercy? I think we have said all we can to him, but the behavior continued. He says he is gearing up for the load next year. I think I need to ramp up my prayer game and maybe get my Helicopter Mom's license. 

Finally, my poor husband has been under a lot of work stress. Friday he made a move that really ticked me off. He acknowledged that I had a reason but of course, once I got set off, I got upset about a lot of things that I had been able to overlook in the past. I finally told him that I think I had been absorbing a lot of is stress, trying to make home life easier on him, but I have reached my limit. 

Hubby had to take a short notice trip overseas, so maybe I can get back in front of my stress. I need to find a more effective was of dealing than eating and getting worked up about things I have no control. (Do I have at least influence over the Teenagers behavior?) I now I need to have Mercy on myself as well as the rest of the world so I don't let it all eat away at me.