Saturday, September 30, 2006
I seems my 11 YO made friends with a set of triplets who are the sisters of a set of twins on the team. Oh boy! He took a pictue with the cell phone of one of the girls and his buddy and made it the wall paper of the cell phone. He thinks that cell phone is his. I keep telling him it's still mine. When I feel it would be a good diea for him to have one., I will let him take it. But he has personalized it. With a picture of a girl... Oh boy!
Friday, September 29, 2006
Happy Birthday to my friend Lily! I met Lily when we both went to work for the same larger Oil company in the big
Lily would love to be a SAHM. She’s one of those who volunteers for everything. I love her to death even when she’s a bit flighty. She has the biggest heart. But she works outside the home. She has a corporate job. Her Hubby has been a free-lancer since he sold his business about 10 years ago. When her oldest was born, she traveled a lot for business. I know it killed her to be away from her babies. As a result she is rather indulgent to them. Her hubby is a good father and present.
One time, I let a less than positive comment slip about something she was doing with her baby. I felt so bad. It was none of my business. She was doing what she felt she needed to do to maintain a strong connection to her baby. She needs to hear that she is a good Mom. Now I try really hard to tell her that all the time. I comment on how beautiful her girls are and to keep up the good work.
Life, circumstances and spouses often pull us away from doing what we are told is “best” for our kids. What’s best for our kids is not what’s always best for the entire family. As Mom’s we try hard to do everything right. It is very gratifying to hear someone telling us we are doing a good job. We fight the doubts and the insecurities. Everyone needs to hear that they are being a good Mom.
Thursday, September 28, 2006
But I want to post what I did a few weeks ago. Dh was out of town. He does not like Ham much, but I made ham and green beans.
Take a Ham Butt - Acutaly I just had about 1/4 ham from the grocery store.
Green beans - Fresh work well, But i used frozen.
Potatoes chopped in chucks (We are not big potato fams so I left it out)
Put it on low and let it cook 6 hours.
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- Pack my lunch most days
- Eat dinner at home most nights
- Utilize the local Library
- I can sew so I repair clothing, mostly by putting patches on the knees of my son's school pants - inside becasue they are uniforms. Then, if they still fit, I will cut off the legs and hem them thus creaitng uniform shorts
- Avoid dry cleanable clothing. In my IT career I can look professional in washable dress pants form Talbots
- We remove our shoes inside the house
- I use only my banks ATM
- I use the ATM once a week
- I have money automatically transferred into our Money MArket fund
- do my grocery shopping with the sales
- I have a shelf where I stockpile certain groceries when they are on sale: Ketchup, syrup, breakfast cereal. There are usually things my family is brand-loyal on.
- Utilize Generics and store brands as long as the quality is good
- Plan my weekly menu
- Hand down clothing between my boys
- Buy bread at the Bakery outlet - we are not huge sandwich people, so we keep our bread in thef reezer anyways
- Pay as many bills online as possibly
- Pack snacks as often as possible
- we keep our cars for 10 years - we do buy new
- We keep our cars in good repair
- Pay more than the minimum on the mortgage
- Pay more than the minimum on my credit cards when I am carrying a balance
- Try not to have a balance on my credit cards
- Make my own cards - So the supplies are expensive, but I use them over and over and it's recreational for me.
- I use 1/3 of a dryer sheet per load. Got hubby to use 1/2
- Make my own decorated cakes for my kids
Wednesday, September 27, 2006
Aug 31 I posted about a book, The Organized Student, that I read and how I was going to work with my son on implementing these techniques for this school year.
So Here's my follow-up. He brought home his interm reports card last Friday. He has one B and the rest A's. And his B in English is only 1.5 points away form A status. He has not had any missing assignments. Wait, I signed one. but the work was done, he just left the notebook at home. But that's only once. So I am satisfied. He seems to be doing a better job at moving his paper from school to home and back. Now it is the beginning of hte year. But he like his teacher's planner. It gives him plenty of room to write in it. His binder is keeping his loose papers handy and easy to find.
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Tuesday, September 26, 2006
Hubby’s brother live in CA. His sons are 5 and 1. I put together a baby-safe photo album of pictures of his Grandparents, Uncle (Hubby), Aunt (my sister-in-law) and his cousins (my sons). Hubby got a phone call from his brother asking why I did not include a picture of me. Hubby says “I know you don’t like pictures of yourself, but you should have included one.”
Hello! Who’s always taking the pictures? When was the last time he took a picture of me that was not from 100 feet away and very unflattering? His family does not think to take many pictures. And when they do it’s of things like cats. LOL! Not to say anything about my Mother-in-law’s beloved cats.
I broke into tears a few days after my son’s First Communion. I had taken pictures of son with Dad, Son with Grandpas, son with Godfather, son with my parents… We were going to take more pictures later, but forgot, even my Mom who’s pretty good about that kind of thing. There were no pictures of my with my son on that important day. Yes, we dressed up in our clothes and I made Hubby take a picture, but it was not the same.
At Hubby’s graduation is December I took pictures of Hubby with his Dad, Mom ,sister, the boys, his friend who came in from
Hubby bought a new camera. He wanted to be able to get sports shots of the boys. He took it last night to a family birthday party. He did take a picture of me and the 7YO together. I hope it came out OK.
Monday, September 25, 2006
Hi All. Here's my tentative menu
Sun - Roasted Chicken, Green beans, noodles
Mon - Out for Pizza
Tues- Chicken pot pie
Wed - Pot roast in the crockpot
Thursday - Cranberry Pot roast - from Crock pot Thursday
Fri - Pre football game cookout for the Wrestling club (got that?) - Hot Dogs and potluck.
Sat- Octoberfest party and Buckeye's football game at my cousin's.
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Sunday, September 24, 2006
Friday, September 22, 2006
|You Are Mint Green|
Balanced and calm, you have mastered the philosophy of living well.
Your friends seek you out for support, and you are able to bring stability to chaotic situations.
You're very open and cheerful - and you feel like you have a lot of freedom in life.
Your future may hold any number of exciting things, and you're ready for all of them!
Thursday, September 21, 2006
Yes, just like some of my recent Menu Plan Monday posts. But I came across a blog Healed Waters about Adult ADHD stories. I have mentioned aspect for My ADHD as well as posted stories of my 11 Yo 6th grade son.
My story begins when I was three, according to my Mom. Since I am about to turn 40, we are talking circa 1970. I was unable to sleep. I would not exhibit emotions. I would not pretend my dolls were real babies. The, one night I was found sitting on top of the refrigerator with no visible means of how I got there. My Mom is a registered nurse. I also have a brother a year younger than I. Mom worked part time, second or third shift. She took me to a few psychologists as well as the family doctor. They put me on Ritalin. At first the does was high. Mom said it made me like a zombie. She said she slept in and then called the doctor. Finally she took me to a Pediatric Neurologist. She wrote in my baby books “The greatest man in the world.” I took Ritalin until I was in third grade. Most people will say I outgrew it. I believe I just learned how to deal with it. I was lucky that I always did well in school. I was/am an avid reader.
I knew I had had issues, but then in the early 90’s when magazine articles started appearing in the mainstream rags about adult ADD, I had someone I knew say ‘I think I have that.” Well, I knew I did. I just learned how to work around it.
I can organize things, but I’m not good about keeping it that way. I tend to have many project going at one time. I leave unfinished tasks around. I compensate at work by keeping lists. After important meetings, I write up notes and send them to the participants to make sure I did not miss anything. My house is usually a state of Chaos. We believe Hubby might be undiagnosed ADD. The 7 YO show signs of hyperactivity, but I think it’s learned. Otherwise he is capable of following multi-step directions, is deliberate in all his actions and can work intricate puzzles without getting bored. Not ADD there.
My younger brother was officially diagnosed when he was in second grade. My Mom knew what his issues were. She had been through it before. (My middle brother never needed meds or help, but Mom did encounter a second grade teacher who told her Middle Brother would never amount to anything. Mom to this day would love to fin said teacher and show her Middle Brother’s MBA and Business card as a Manager with a well known consulting firm). But with younger brother, in the late 70’s, she tried the Feingold diet and it just was not effective for him. When he was in second grade and she found him crying because he said none of the other kids liked him and he did not even like him, she knew it was time for extra help. Younger brother stopped taking medication when he went away to college because he did not want the responsibility of safeguarding his medication. It took until he was about 25 to really start getting his act together. He is working to finish college next Spring at the age of 33.
So this morning I get an email from the 6th grader's teacher: On another note, B. did not get his medicine today, and we are certainly noticing a difference. I misunderstood, and did not realize he put a new patch on every day. I thought that they lasted longer than that. There were a few days last week, where his attention had not been as great as it had been. Now that I'm putting it all together, I'm wondering if he had forgotten on those days as well.
I call Hubby. He is driving to a job site. He forgot "And the bugger did not remind me." Hubby's not a morning person, but to his credit, they all usually get out of the house with most of the things they need. It is chaotic becasue usually the 6th grader's meds have not taken effect and he is mouthy. So I look at my calendar, it is open. It's a 50 mile drive home. How important is it? Well, he has a soccer game tonight. He is supposed to come home by himself, start homework and eat some dinner. He'll have trouble winding down to fall asleep becasue as the day gets longer, he'll become more and more hyper and wound up. Decision made, I tell my staff where I am going. I have a magic Blackberry so I will be reachable. I peck out "I will be there in about an hour" as a reply to the email. So I go careening up I-75.
So I arrive at school about 50 minutes later, patch and 10 mg pill of Focalin in hand. They call him down and Mrs. C comes too. We talk, She said she understood when I said he just gets worse as the day goes one. She could see the progression. She said she had just witnessed him trying to tie his shoes. He bent over and then forgot why he was down there. She said when she got my email she wondered what I knew might happen and if she would need a sub for the afternoon to recover from the experience. LOL. She was amazed at the difference between today and yesterday as to his behavior. I said the only demerits he ever got was the day he did not take his meds last year. He can get argumentative.
The school nurse was very interested in the patch. I told them it takes about 2 hours to kick in so I gave him a Focalin which should kick in in about 20 minutes to help until the patch worked it's magic. I left the package for the Daytrana patch with the nurse.
B. claimed he told Dad he did not have his patch. He probably did, but mornings are hectic and Dad 's been feeling a little out of sorts. So they both probably forgot again.
Saint Theresa is known as the Saint of the Little Ways. She believed in doing the little things in life well and with great love. She is also the patron Saint of flower growers and florists. She is represented by roses. I pray that you all be blessed today in some form or another. Remember to take time out of your busy day to stop….just for a minute or two…and think about the little things in life that people have done for you that have made all the difference in the world. And when you are done thinking about that, pass this blessing on to them, as I have done to you. You have made a difference in my life because you are you and because of the little things that you do that seem so big! J St. Theresa's Prayer:May today there be peace within. May you trust God that you are exactly where you are meant to be. May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith. May you use those gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that has been given to you.. May you be content knowing you are a child of God.... Let this presence settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love. It is there for each and every one of us. Now pass it on and spread the blessings!
This is a wonderful tidbit about St. Theresa, also known as the little Flower. That’s quite lovely. But someone placed it with a picture of Blessed Mother Theresa. Blessed Mother Theresa has not been canonized as a Saint, yet. She’s on her way.
That’s the Catholic Theology lesson for today. The picture and the text do not go together. You’ve got to love the internet.
Since I have been usning my crockpot a couple of times a week, I thought I'd participate in Slow Cooking Thursday hosted by Sandra.
But here's the thing. I am away from home 11-12 hours a day thanks to an hour long commute each way. So a lot of casserole-type recipes get burned. Yes, I have one of those Rival timers for my crockpot. I usually set it to cook for 10 hours and then it changes to warm.
This idea is from my brother. In college (we were housemates for 2 years) we used to say we needed to get a cow for our roomate C who drank milk all the time. But then we decided that was not a good ideas becasue my Brother R would slaughter it for the meat.
So take a tip roast - the kind you buy with the netting, and pace it in the crock pot. Pour 2 cans of beef consume over it (half the time IN throw in water and a few bullion cubes). Then cover with a small jar of horseradish. Let it cook for hours (8 on low, 4 on high). Pull it out and slice it. Serve on hard, crusty rolls. This is often our Christmas eve dinner.
Wednesday, September 20, 2006
My Baby boy is 7 years old today. I guess I am fortunate that I have always lived near extended family. As I child, I had big birthday parties, but all of the guests were Aunts, Uncles, Cousins and Grandparents. (My mom is second of 11 kids). I never think of throwing a birthday party for my kid's friends. Tonight - because our weekends are booked, we have invited family over for cake and ice cream. I know Grammy will be there. I know A's Godmother Julie and her kids will be there. I have not heard form his Godfather's family. If she's not workiing, Aunt L will be there. Uncle B has to work and cousin D has soccer practice so R's family will not make it.
He went easy on me this year for his cake. (I decorate their cakes). Last year it was this elaborate Cheeseburger-looking cake with 7 layers. He wanted a Star shaped, Marble cake, please, with Chocolate icing and sprinkles.
Simple Birthday parties work for me.
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Tuesday, September 19, 2006
With having sons who are active in sports and other extra curricular activities, they need to learn to complete their homework in what time slots they have available. I think the First Grader has figured that out already. He gets a few papers every Monday to complete by Friday. This week they were done by the time he came home from after school care. The 6th grader, on the other hand, seems to hit his stride homework-wise, after dinner. I finally decided that that is Ok on nights he does not have activities. I did tell him I want him to be done by 8:30. Tonight he had soccer practice from 5-6. I’m sure he will not start anything until after dinner.
I was telling this to my Mom and she said it was always hard for her to come home and get started on her homework right away. Huh? I seem to remember this being the woman who insisted we do our homework after school and a short break. Must have been more me trying to get it done and out of the way.
Monday, September 18, 2006
We have not had any sleeping issues. As a matter of fact, he's been turning out his light earlier. I can't say for sure that he's falling asleep, but he's been able to settle down easier.
This weekend I gave him Concerta because we had 5 patches left and a doctor's appointment for Monday.
For my Daytrana, Medication patch for ADHD summary post, click here.
Well now, I am going to try this post exclusively via email. My Web browser is not pulling anything up this AM.
Mon (Ground Beef night) – Cheeseburger sloppy joes, green bean, sliced pears
Tues (Poultry night) –
Wed (A’s Birthday) – Burgers on the grill, cake and ice cream for dessert
Thurs (Soccer game) – Beef roast in the crockpot
Fri – I am staying after work. So the family will fend for themselves..
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ed: The banner did not come across in the email. I had to go back in, edit my post and put it here. Just so you all know. M
Friday, September 15, 2006
3 weeks update
Wednesday, September 13, 2006
I have a super-reader at home. My soon to be 7 yo First Grader read a Magic Tree House book about the Titanic. And he correctly answered questions about the Titanic.
Now, I was reading when I was in First Grade. My Mother claims I read to the class. I don’t remember that. Hubby is an avid reader. The 11 YO son likes to read when he is calm enough to sit still. Some he has had some great examples. But I am surprised. We never worked with him. Although I noticed this summer that his ability to read signs just seemed to explode overnight. It’s been a while since he asked me what a string of letters spells.
This summer at the bookstore he begged me to buy him some of the Captain Underpants books by Dav Pilkey. His brother’s copies were falling apart. Since those are part text and part comic books, I did not think he was “really” reading them. Oops! I guess I was wrong.
So last night I handed him a Hardy Boys book and told him I thought he might like it. His brother never read those. It was my Second Grade teacher who introduced me to Nancy Drew.
Tuesday, September 12, 2006
So my boys wear uniforms to school. Navy blue pants and white or light blue polo shirts. My boys play hard and blow out the knees of their pants. When I first notice the material getting a little thin, or there is ust the tiniest of hole starting, I apply patches - on the inside. Patches on the outside are not acceptable uniform attire. This buys us a little more time. I use this especially in March and April. As of April, tailored shorts are acceptable uniform attire. Yes, since I do sew, I cut off the holey knees, hem them and we have a great pair of pants.
I use iron patches and then stitch around the edge. Yes you can see the stitching line, but the teachers at school have never made an issue of it. Most of them are Moms too and understand, especially come April or MArch.
The shorts thing works for us becasue DS11 is very thin and long-legged. Even slim sizes are usually large in the waist for him.
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Saturday we attended the festival put on by the local Greek Orthodox Church. the 11 yo wanted to know what the Greek Orthodox church was. I started talking about how sacraments in an Orthodox Church "count" as Catholic sacraments and how in the early centries of the Christian Church that there was disagreement between the East and the West over authority of the pope..
"Mom, I know all about the schism."
"Oh, Well the Orthodox Church is comprised of several different Orthodox sects, There are the Russian Orthodx, The Greek Orthodox and others."
So glad to know he's paying attention in Religion calss.
I think about my menus on Friday, because I grocery shop Saturday mornings (when I can)
Sunday - Rice, Chicken breasts and a apricot sauce. - Not a huge hit.
Monday - Meatloaf I cooked Sunday night because the 11 YO has soccer practice until 5:30 and Hubby and I have a 6:00 meeting for the Wrestling club. - Hubby brought me a plate with a slice of meatloaf and leftover rice.
Tuesday - This will be an eat out night. the 11 YO has a soccer game 25 miles away at 5:30 meaning he has to be there at 5:00
Wednesday - Turkey Breasts in the crockpot - another soccer game but not until 6:45
Thursday - Hubby is fly to Atlanta so We will ahve Ham and Green Beans in the crockpot. Hubby is not a ham fan
Friday - Leftovers - As of Tuesday we have half of the meatloaf. - Maybe I will crumble it and make fried rice.
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Monday, September 11, 2006
Another rant. One of the fellow carpools it a single guy under 30. When he has a reason to be home early, no problem. But Fridays, when I need to be early, I am always pressed for time. I hate to be late. I hate to be rushed. I do not like showing up at the daycare at 5:55 and my son is the last kid there. One time it was 6:05. Rant over.
Friday, September 08, 2006
September 11th, 2001
September 11th is my brother’s birthday. It’s also Hubby’s friend Greg’s. Greg’s wife Lily introduced Hubby and I. I feel bad for them that their day was overshadowed by such horrific events.
At the time I was a Contractor with the Air Force. I worked on Base. I was coming from the Cafeteria and walked by a co-worker who said “Do you know anybody who is visiting New York City? A plane just crashed into the World Trade Center.” So I get back to my desk an try to pull up CNN on the Internet. It’s slow. People in the office are milling about talking. I turn on my desk radio. We hear the second tower has been hit. Another Co-worker is getting very nervous. He thinks they are going to lockdown the base and he wants to leave now! I think maybe he is overreacting. Well, they did up the security on the base to Delta. That usually means nobody in on or off. Then Our Contracting PM comes around telling all of the contractors to go home, that he would be in touch about tomorrow via the recall roster. Since I am the lead for my small contracting company, He will call me with news and I will call all of the people that work for my company.
So I get in my car and join the line of people driving off base. I am listening to the radio. I remember a lot of talk and hearing a lot of the song “In the arms of an angel”. I went to my corporate office. There are too many of us there. We are given instructions that if we have work we can do from home and bill the Government, that’s what we are to do. Those who did not have work to do were to be in the office.
I went home but was unable to keep my eyes off of the TV. I worried aobut my boys at school and daycare, but I was supposed to be working from home. I figured they were safe enough and I did not want to disrupt their routine.
We were kept off base for 4 or 5 days. Several of those days, I was at the corporate office. I remember I represented the company at a meeting to go over a contract proposal.
Once we were allowed back on base, the entire security posture of the place was changed. We had to wait in long lines to get to on base. IDs were checked and double checked. Doors were locked, traffic flow was changed. The entire world changed.
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Wednesday, September 06, 2006
My 11 Yo’s teacher sent this email this morning:
Dear Parents - One of my History exchanges this morning spent a lot of time discussing the events of September 11, 2001. They had many questions on what happened, why, how, why security is the way that it is at airports today, and what the possibility was of this happening again. I didn't realize that they were first graders when it happened. (To me it seems just like yesterday.) I was surprised at how much they wanted to talk about it.
I bring this to your attention because maybe you too, didn't realize their need to discuss this, and understand this, and that there may be some hidden fears.
Wow! These are 6th Grader’s. It does seem like it was just yesterday. I guess I know what I am going to bring up at the dinner table tonight.
Tuesday, September 05, 2006
Of course there are quite a few T-shirts on the market that are of questionable taste. I've seen some and snickered at them. then I decided that they are not promoting attitudes I want my 6 and 11 YO boys to emulate. Besides, my kids play so many sports and we have commemorated fun visits with T-Shirts, we have no need to go to the local Target and purchase T-shirts. This summer it has been all I can do to get the 11 yo to wear taylored shorts instead of the gym shorts.
This weekend we went to Chicago to visit with Grandpa. The boys were mystified that we had them wear long pants (they both looked like theri legs were a mile long). We had to argue with the 11 YO to wear his jeans and not sweatpants. The 6 yo was upset because he had to wear pants that were a little big in the waist. He wanted to wear the pair that were a bit too short. Dad has issues with pants that are even close to being too short due to being teased about wearing "floods" when he went through a growth spurt as a child.
The 7 YO and I went shopping yeasterday and got him a new pair of jeans, a pair of school pants and a new pair of athletic shoes. Now the 11 YO needs new athletic shoes - so he claims.
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Mon - Polish Sausage, baked beans and green beans
Tues - Cheeseburger sloppy joes Made Monday - 5:30 soccer game
Wed - Chicken Breasts
Thurs - Pork roast in the crockpot.
Fri - Homemade pizza - store bought crust - italian sausage and whatever I dig out of the fridge
Friday, September 01, 2006
I did not sleep well. I woke up about 2:30 and could not go back to sleep. I was fretting. The “obvious” issue I was angry about was not the whole story. I was really out of sorts. I was quite angry at Hubby, but it was also partly my own fault. It has been a busy week. There were some major personnel issues at work which came to the best conclusion on Wednesday; the 11 YO had soccer games Tuesday and Wednesday evening. So it was wait for my ride home, get to the rendezvous point, get into my car and race to the soccer field and catch the last half of the soccer game. Oh, wait, grab some food to stuff into myself. Then home where Hubby changed clothes and went to work out. I had some errands I though about running Wed night, but since Hubby was gone, I was unable. So I got up early Thursday and went to the 24 hour Mega Mart to get the things I needs for a work event.
I value my personal time. I have been subject to someone else’s schedule all week: the carpool, work, soccer and Hubby. But I know Hubby’s been feeling some of the same. He has to be the one to drop the boys off everywhere because I work out of town. I’m pleased that he is making the time to work out. I have not found my balance. Last night I did get to run an errand, but I felt more demands on me when I got home. This weekend we have pans to go out of town. I’m wishing we did not. It sure does put me in a lousy mood. Hopefully it will go away soon.