Dr. Ramey wrote that the reason's people do things are complex and often unknown. Parents ask this question becasue they are looking for insight into a child's problems. He said that the Why question leads nowhere and that the parent should deal with the issue of changing the child's behavior. He suggests alternate questions:
- What can you do to avoid this problem in the future?
- What were you thinking?
- Help me understand what is going on? or Tell me more about what happened.
Now if I can work on changing Hubby's behavior.